There’s something I’ve been working with that’s so intimate, so deeply embedded in my body, I haven’t been able to name it fully until now. And yet it feels important, actually vital, to speak it. Not just for me, but for the many of us who carry shame that was never ours to begin with.

I’ve been deepening into my sex magic practice recently — not as a technique or ritual, but as a way of living, of listening, of reclaiming. What I’m discovering is that when I soften into breath, when I slow down and let my body lead, pleasure opens through me.

I think it is fair to say that there is a lot moving at the moment and anything that isn't in alignment with our truth is surfacing. This may show up physically, emotionally, mentally, energetically and/or spiritually. What is moving through you right now and how is this an opportunity for you to be more the you that you came here to be? I can't even find a word to describe my week, it seems to be beyond them and I suppose it is. Between last Sunday and Monday evening I discovered that the man I had been in a relationship with for the last year had lied to me about everything.

Anger, rage, frustration has been arising for me recently and I see how this has shown itself to me in the experiences I've had with others. Yesterday I realise that a lady who I knew from where I used to live had killed her husband. This woman was a lollipop lady where my kids went to school. She was shy and quiet and was also the rainbow leader of the group that my youngest went to. When she wanted to retire from this role as a leader I took it on and learnt from her. She was not like most mums in the area, but she is definitely not a murderer. I imagine that the rage within her towards her husband and the abuse that she had had to live with for over 50 years eventually made her kill him. 

I am noticing how angry and sad I am at the way women are sexualised. I went to a party last week and an adult man in his 50's can't keep his hands or eyes to himself. I know this is who he is and I know that he does not like me because I am too honest. And I feel distraught that everyone thinks this sort of behaviour is ok! Everyone is playing the oh that's just …… game ha ha. That's the way he is, can't keep his eyes off women's tits, can't keep his dick in his pants …….. WTF! His wife couldn't be present because she had to look after the granddaughter, probably a good thing as I may have said something inappropriate. I know that they are unconsciously playing this game with each other but it really angers and saddens me it is happening and it saddens me that his 2 daughters (1 with her) is aware and playing this game too. I judge that this family really needs a man they can trust.

Yesterday my phone rings, I don’t recognise the number, I pick it up and hear the words: are you available today? I know those words are from someone looking for a tantra massage, someone looking to do deeper work would present themselves in a very different way. I respond no I am not and that I do not offer tantric massages as I imagine that is what he wants. I share that my sessions are different, we go on a deeper journey within so that you can connect to yourself and the pleasure that is within you not outside yourself. He says: You’re hot I would love to see your lips round my cock. Even writing this now

6 years ago I found myself travelling to London following my gut. I had no idea what was going to unfold in front of me but I knew I needed to go. I had come across Tantra very briefly and knew there was something in that I needed to explore. Something that I needed to learn and bring to my community. I had no idea what it was. I had signed up to be a Tantric Journey educator and was on my way to do level 1. I book a hotel nearby and notice how insecure I feel arriving late in the evening and not knowing my surroundings. I find the hotel eventually and plan my route for the following morning.

You really have choice at any given moment. I know it sometimes doesn’t feel like that, that life is on auto pilot and that you have to do this that or the other. And yes for most of us life can feel like an ever ending unfolding journey of events we don’t really have choice over. Maybe this is what childhood feels like for us and we take it into adulthood. But as adults we have choice and are responsible for what we choose. We will still be living in past conditioning but we can now choose to step out of that and live a life we choose. 

For some reason you are choosing to read this right now. Why are you doing that? Maybe you have read something before I have written and liked it, maybe this somehow found you

Do you stop and think who anything you are doing is for? The deeper I go on my journey of self discovery the more often I find myself doing that. 

Today is 10 years since my husband passed. My mother also passed precisely a month ago. There are a lot of emotions moving through me and I judge that as a good thing. My daughter said that she read that grief is the sadness of unexpressed love. I like that, it feels true, grief and joy are very closely connected. Feeling grief and sadness when it arrises can feel terribly heavy in the moment, but within that heaviness there is a softening, a release, an opening. 

I have just stepped in to 2022 with a feeling that this year will bring many opportunities and experiences that will help me expand and grow and the first one has hit me, I feel so confused in this moment of writing.

Divine lover was not able or willing to give me the relationship I want. He also has avoidant traits which makes me anxious. I didn’t see the attachment issues as a huge problem as I do believe that they can be worked through in relating, and I know I am here to heal attachment and relationship wounds. But that he wasn’t willing to commit I saw as an issue because I feel I need that safety to able to relax deeper into the container of growth that our relationship is.